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Hi Wujing! I don't really have anything to ask, but I just wanna thank you for your talk at TED. I'm a guy from Indonesia and I'm embarrassingly very shy at my mid-20. Your talk was really inspiring for me. Thank you for taking the chance to stood up at TED. I believe it will inspire many many other shy persons out there.

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I’m very very happy that it helped.  It’s still hard for me and probably for you, too.  But hey, we are not alone :)

Nurse reveals the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed — Bronnie Ware

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result. 
We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win. 

In Response to “Talking Changed My World”

In the following story Claudia talking to Larry helped her know herself and the world better.  It is the most honest and open story I’ve ever heard. — Wujing

My name is Claudia Drury. I am a senior at SLC this year.

Before I was born, my parents had a child that died. Mom had an episode of sudden onset pre-eclampsia and the baby died. My mom had to deliver her anyway. Mom herself almost died, her kidneys failed. This was in May of 1989, I was born December 1990. Afterward, my parents were in an extreme amount of pain. My parents were not able to process what had happened to my sister Phoebe and as a result went into denial about the fact that her death had affected them at all. They couldn’t accept the idea that anything could be wrong with me because of the pain of what had happened with Phoebe. I could see that they were sad and upset, and this prevented them from giving me the love and attention I needed, but they pretended as though their behavior was normal. For the first twenty years of my life, I never felt loved or right and acted out to get my parents attention. My cries for attention always fell on deaf ears. When I was younger I would run away, purposely fall on my head, once I purposefully ate a capsule of ammonia. I lied to my parent’s face, and when that did not get their attention, lied to my school teachers so my teachers would have to confront my parents for me. My parents never acknowledged any of these cries for attention and acted as though I just had problems, and there was something wrong with me instead of acknowledging that their actions were the cause of my bad feelings.

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Love, only when our heart is open, when we fall the strength resonating within us from Love of Self is how we get up, we are never afraid, this is our Will by Choice, “The Freedom to Love.”

Lawrence Ray

Talking Changed My World-Submitted

You know how people make wishes on things? A shooting star, the last petal on a flower, an eyelash? When I was younger, I always tried to figure out the best wish of all, one that I could make every time. Do other people do this? I had two wishes. The first was, “I wish that someone would just come along and make this all make sense to me.” Sometime around 13 or 14 years old I gave up on that  and through high school my mantra was only this: “I just want to be happy.”

Why was I so unhappy? Outwardly it would appear that I had no reason to be. I had friends, I was smart, I had a fun time, I had wonderful parents who only wanted the best for me. But what this website is all about is communication. And what communication is all about is bringing into sync your inside and your outside. On the outside I was smiling and laughing. On the inside I was completely, utterly unhappy.

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